I don't see any value in whether or not someone "could" have
a fantasy in a discussion based on whether or not they
"actually" do. Of course they could. Just as of course some
do ... there's only one universal law and that's there ain't
any.
Men could fantasize about the heroic nature of Mr. Rogers ...
doesn't mean they will. Part of the problem as well is when
we say "men" and "women" some automatically suppose an
"either or" or "black and white" absolute conclusion when
that's rare at best. Of course there are "some" women who do,
just as there are some men who fantasize about being Mr.
Rogers. But as a group ... as a whole, it's the statistically
majority that brings a definitive aspect to the
argument.
We could of course just dismiss it all because of the gray
areas and declare everyone open to be anything, but that
tends to chaff against the natural human desire to classify
the surrounding world and its contents. The only harm occurs
when the group assumption is actually applied to individuals
without regard to their specific desires.
Anthony
----- Original Message ----- From: Carrie Pruett Sent:
Wednesday, 22 August, 2001 1:34 PM
> Ah, see, I read your original posts about the
"mythical" PI as a male
> fantasy figure to say that only men *have* this
fantasy. I agree that
it's
> self-evident that men are traditionally *featured*
in this fantasy, but
> there's certainly plenty in this fantasy to appeal
to women : the
> traditional PI is something of an outsider in the
law enforcement
community,
> which women can certainly relate to; violence is
certainly a fact of many
> women's lives, even if they spend more time trying
to avoid it than to
> inflict it; and the PI traditionally has a degree of
independence that
many
> women, particularly of the Baby Boom generation and
beyond, have very
> consciously been struggling for (singleness being
viewed as the default
> condition for adult men and something of a tragedy
for adult women).
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